By Jerr Rrej,
A man will catch feelings for a woman. If a man is human than he will have some feelings for a woman after being in a relationship for a while. But the key thing this thread will discuss is how to keep emotional distance and low feelings for a woman.
Feelings build based on sentiment and emotional attachment through reliance on validation. A man will begin to have feelings for a woman because he begins to romanticize her apart from other women. The more special a man makes a woman in his mind, the greater the feeling.
The more a man emotional relies on a woman and the more he views her as special will fuel his sentiment for her. Sentiment is a glowing aura around people/things that we have closely associated with our own ego. Sentimentality is emotionalism.
Why would a man want to keep his feelings low and stay unattached to a woman? Because to be more successful in a romantic relationship with a woman requires emotional distance necessary for rational leadership. The more attached a man becomes the less authority he has.
The Wall Speaks book is about masculine frame, it teaches how to live with one woman. Frame is not about promiscuity.
In a way, a man must be distant and detached if he truly loves a woman. It is a balancing act and takes power of frame. Women reward distant men and become emotionally charged around them. Being detached creates a heavy love inside the woman. And this is important to romance.
How can a man keep low emotion and stay detached? He must rationalize the woman as common. In truth she is common, but our emotions blind us to this fact. And even if a woman is uncommon, finding as much commonality with other women will help a man to see her as one of many.
Another way a man can stay in low emotion is to work on emotionally validating himself. The less he uses a woman for emotional comfort, the less he will see her as emotionally needed for his sense of self. Women will work hard to nurture to feel needed. It is their design.
See the commonalities. Understand female nature. Validate yourself. Practice the low emotional state carried with masculine frame. Exist in a rational worldview. This will increase a woman’s love and feelings for you. And if you truly love her, you will give her this.
Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.
The Wall Speaks is an easy to read guide on learning masculine frame.