By Jerr Rrej
Countless men have heard women tell them to “Just be themselves” and that romance is about open communication. That expressing the personality is a positive in romance. This feminine advice is common but the reward for the advice is rare.
Why is a man who expresses his personality a negative in romance? Think. What is the greatest aphrodisiac to women? Power. And power projection increases the less a man expresses himself. It is the quiet men who assume authority. This is why women like the strong “Silent types”
Why do women encourage men to “Just be themselves”? Because a woman wants a man to open in order for her to accurately judge him. The more open a man becomes with a woman the more she will understand how strong he truly is
Why would a woman care about the truth of a man’s strength? Because a woman has more at risk in sexual selection. To bear a man’s child requires her to take a risk on him. And a woman making that judgment can be tricky.
This is why women encourage expression in men. They do this as a way to best navigate their sexual selection. And they condition men to fall into this frame by celebrating “Authenticity” and “True expression”
Why do feminized men encourage other men to be authentic and to not hold back their emotional expression? Because these men trust feminine speech and moralize the feminine frame. But what is the psychological reason for men to trust the feminine frame?
Because this is a temptation into weakness. It is a fond remembrance of the glowing approval of mothers to sons. See? It is an infantilization into a childlike state. A state where their mommas held the answers and gave them all the approval that solved their inner doubts.
The Wall Speaks book is about masculine frame, it teaches how to live with one woman. Frame is not about promiscuity.
They could express themselves without thought of power dynamics and their mommas could validate them. They could “Just be themselves” and be as open without worry. It was a free and special feeling time for them which they want to recapture.
What is more challenging, to be open or closed? What is easier, to “Just be yourself” Or to overcome yourself? See? This is why feminized men encourage men to be “Authentic” and “Real”– They encourage weakness, they encourage feminine frame to stay in a mother/son dynamic
That is why it is common for feminized men to shrug frame with their women. Their women give them external validation for their “Special personalities” and approval like mothers to sons. These men do not want to surrender their need for validation for power gain.
Remember this when you see men who demonize “Frame” — They sell weakness, and they speak to get the approval of women. Notice how women agree with their thinking. Women are not agreeing with these men’s original thoughts, they are agreeing with men reiterating feminine thoughts
Hold strong frame. Give up the personal expression that boys refuse to give up for something better, masculine pride and power. Ignore feminine men who speak against frame. We are in hyper feminized times and frame is considered hateful only because the times are this bad.
Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.
The Wall Speaks is an easy to read guide on learning masculine frame.