By Jerr Rrej,
Soft masculinity accounts, women and feminized men of all sorts will talk about how framed men are “Bottling up emotion” like steam that will eventually overwhelm into outburst. They encourage men to express emotion to avoid this breakdown.
These types will talk about how men need to be “In touch with their feminine side” and learn how to “Integrate their emotion” in order to avoid this emotionally overload that leads to dysfunction. Is this true?
No. A man holding in his emotion does not do any damage to his body and does not accumulate emotion like bottled up steam. He is not storing up emotion in his body like a warehouse of sensitivity.
Frame builds internal fortitude that is like a callous that surrounds a man’s emotional inner reality. The more a man desensitizes himself the more he can handle emotion without reacting to it.
And is a man accumulating the emotion for a future day? No. Emotion is a momentary sensation that is handled at that time. A man holds the emotion with his internal fortitude, examines it and rationalizes it away if nothing can be learned from it.
The Wall Speaks book is about masculine frame, it teaches how to live with one woman. Frame is not about promiscuity.
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Many women and womanly men get confused because a framed man will occasionally get emotional. Why? Because we are human. But the key thing with a framed man is that he knows that he is emotional because he allowed his fortitude to weaken.
Occasional emotionalism is not because a man let his emotions bottle up as much as it is due to him letting the callous soften in his internal frame. Frame is a daily discipline that we either strengthen or weaken. It is not permanent.
Think about internal fortitude like this. A man who digs ditches will build callous on his hands that strengthens him for further work. He is not building up pain for later. He is deflecting current pain in the moment. And if he allows his hands to soften, he will get pain again
When a man lowers his expression of emotion, he lowers his need for emotional validation which increases the strength of his internal fortitude. This allows him to detach from emotion for rational thought. This is masculine frame. Women do not encourage this. It is for men.
Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.
The Wall Speaks is an easy to read guide on learning masculine frame.
