By Jerr Rrej,
Many men have been told by women that “Open communication” is healthy for a relationship. This is both true and false. A woman will never reveal herself in completeness but will speak in subtle clues to her meaning. She does this to protect herself from exploitation.
But not just exploitation but so that she is not directing her arousal. A woman who gives away all the clues to her arousal is a woman who becomes the dominant leader which ultimately deflates her arousal. This is why women wish “Men just got it”.
“Open communication” in a relationship is when a woman allows herself to open up to her man and not the reverse. A woman will want to discuss her problems with her man but she does not want him to solve her problems. Why?
Because of arrogance. A woman feels herself master over emotional issues and social issues. When a woman goes to her man to discuss her uneasy emotion, she just wants a listening ear and not a problem solver. She views a man as incompetent compared to her emotional supremacy.
The Wall Speaks book is about masculine frame, it teaches how to live with one woman. Frame is not about promiscuity.
But is a woman a master of emotion? No. She thinks she is a master of emotion merely because she is experiences high emotion and frequently battles emotion. She thinks a man is a novice in terms of emotion because he is more emotionally detached.
But what women do not realize is that to master emotion is to rise above the emotion and not fall into its grasp. Men are masters of emotion because we overcome our emotional reality while being able to manipulate the emotions of women.
Who has more power, the drug user or the dealer? But a woman does not realize this. She will think she is the master of emotion because she is the greater partaker of emotion. And so, when a man tries to solve her emotional issue, he is not letting the “Master” work. See?
This is why when a woman talks about her issues with her man, and he just listens without trying to solve her issue’ she will be more satisfied. A framed man allows a woman to rationalize her emotional state all by herself. This makes her feel like a true “Master” in her mind.
And the more a man just listens to a woman without trying to solve it, the woman will think herself annoying or silly for having to burden the man with her uneasy emotional state. She will feel a fool and will give affection to the man for having to be burdened by her anxiety.
Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.
The Wall Speaks is an easy to read guide on learning masculine frame.