Why a man is his own worst enemy in romance.

By Jerr Rrej

A man who is practicing frame will notice that women readily give away their power to strong frames. But a man will also notice that carrying frame around men can be more challenging because frames will fall into competition with each other. This thread will go into detail.

Let us breakdown the core element of frame to better understand what is at play. When a man bears strong frame, what he is doing is projecting “authority of self” which inspires others to trust that authority. This is why females become submissive around masculine frames.

This authority of self is “SENSE OF SELF”– Whomever has the strongest sense of self is the one who is trusted as leader and who gains power over others. Shit tests are confidence tests. When a man carries frame, his frame will be tested because others want to know his strength.

When a man carries frame around other men, he is competing for authority and power. Of course, this will be tested by the other males. There will be a “Battle of wills” between men. A major reason why shit tests lead to physical clashes among men.

Sometimes a man gains a best friend or a worst enemy with such a clash. Men only trust other men who have a strong sense of self. But only after that sense of self is tested with humiliation rituals and mockery. Men want to know how well a man takes testing.

The Wall Speaks book is about masculine frame, it teaches how to live with one woman. Frame is not about promiscuity.


But the key thing to remember among men is that to past the test is to deflect and attack back. To merely absorb is to become a fool among assholes who will treat that man as jester for entire relationship.

To be a man is to stand up for the self. Remember, “sense of self” is the core of frame and that means we must defend that sense of self. Men respect men who stand up for respect. But they also do not respect men who LOSE SENSE OF SELF by becoming emotional.

The key to being around men is to show low emotion and to give as well as you take. But do not show emotional well giving. Smirk and laugh. Establish that the testing is in fun. Otherwise, it will lead to combat or sour men with weak sense of selves.

Being a “serious young man” with strong frame will get respect. Do not feel that you are the clown of a group that must support humiliation rituals at your expense. Stand up for yourself with calm charisma and give as well as take. Show others respect and stand up for yourself.

Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.

The Wall Speaks is an easy to read guide on learning masculine frame.