A man creates his own optimism

By Jerr Rrej,

There will be times in a man’s life where he will despair about being in a challenging situation. It can be from heartbreak, losing a job or any tragedy. This can make a man feel that he is in a hole. And this dark state will overwhelm his thoughts. What can a man do?

He must correct his perception. He must imagine a better reality. And then he must summon the will to achieve that reality. Imagination with willpower can overcome any challenge. To surrender in the hole of despair is to surrender the capacity to rise. And we all can rise.

The core reason many men despair is because they have allowed their behaviors of disbelief to sink into their consciousness. A drunk will begin to drink more and more. His dependency will increase, and his self-belief will atrophy. Decay breed decay.

The same for a man who gets sexually rejected by all women. He will despair because he believes in the “Just be yourself” phrase and this rejection means a rejection of his own self. And this can make him feel like he has no other options for success.

The self is whatever we want the self to be. We are blessed with free will and an imagination. This means we can alter the reality in our lives. We hold the power of change within us. A drunk can push away the bottle. He can suffer through the withdrawal and gain a new belief

The man who gets sexually rejected can alter his presentation just like a salesman and see positive results. He will find women are not rejecting him but rather his presentation of self. And we are masters of our own behavior. Speech, movement and confidence are in our power.

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We must first imagine a new reality. And then we must summon the willpower to create that reality. Each day we are given an opportunity to make a small change towards our goal. As long as we have breath we can change. And change is life.

A man in a hole will despair and that despair will increase his anxiety. This can make him pity himself and that pity paralyzes his imagination and will. CAST PITY AWAY FROM THE SELF. Realize that we can dig a shelf in the dirt with our hands. Slowly we can ascend with footings

There is always a way out. There is always a new strategy to try. There is always a new configuration. And just as weakness begets weakness; strength increases strength. The stronger we become the softer our troubles feel. They will no longer make us despair.

A man creates his own optimism. We dream of new beginnings. We imagine and achieve. Frame is a state of mind. It is a state of belief. We can alter perception, self and environment. LIFE IS WHAT WE MAKE IT. And let us make it strong as hell. Keep moving forward in self-belief.

Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.

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