By Jerr Rrej
Many men are thinking why women would hate male speech when women encourage men that “Express is best”- This thread will discuss this phenomenon in detail. We judge not women’s words but what they reward through action. This is masculine frame.
Why do we speak? To make inner selves known to others. Why? Two main reasons. One is either through rational discourse to adjust our reasoning with another (Masculine) And the other is for emotional validation of our inner state (Feminine)
When a man speaks to other men, they are exploring each other’s minds while when women speak to each other they are comforting each other’s emotions. A woman feels emotionally vulnerable from biology and seeks reassurance of self through communication.
What many unframed men do not realize is that when they speak to their women that their women are viewing them as needing emotional validation. The man may be exploring interesting ideas, but his woman will be thinking “He is like a little boy needing attention with his momma”
The Wall Speaks book is about masculine frame, it teaches how to live with one woman. Frame is not about promiscuity. – Ekoroi
And they are correct. A man who is talking a lot with his woman is needing emotional validation for his inner reality. What does it take to hold back speech? Inner strength and belief in self. What do nervous people do? They talk obsessively and fast because they need validation
When a man talks more than his woman, it reveals that not only is he in doubt of himself but that he must reveal the harmlessness of his thoughts. This kills the mystery that fuels sexual arousal in women and demystifies the power in a man’s possession.
A framed man lets his woman speak more than him in order to allow her to be in her feminine. This positions the man as authority as the woman must qualify her thoughts to her man and not the reverse. This reaffirms the man’s authority while inciting mystery. Two elements of frame
HOLD BACK SPEECH. GAIN POWER. GAIN MYSTERY.
Recognize that most speech is validation seeking behavior that should be left to the woman.
Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.
The Wall Speaks is an easy to read guide on learning masculine frame.