By Jerr Rrej
All men have been sexually rejected one time or another. A man may hope for an interaction with a woman and become hurt when it does not realize. He will feel hurt and will question himself. His self-esteem may lower because of being rejected. His confidence may shatter.
What does it mean to take rejection personally? It means to be emotionally affected by the rejection of our sense of self. And this rejection of self can cause a man to doubt his sense of attractiveness to women. This can cause him to sour in emotion and spike a feeling of pain.
Should a man take sexual rejection personally? Yes, but he should not take it emotionally. He should feel less about the rejection and think more about the rejection.
The more a man understands sex, the more he understands that it is less about his personality and more about his presentation of his personality. And presentation can be altered and improved. There is many aspects of dating and game that I will eventually write about in the future. But the key thing is for a man to take account of the rejection, learn a lesson and improve.
The Wall Speaks book is about masculine frame, it teaches how to live with one woman. Frame is not about promiscuity.
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When a woman rejects a man sexually is because he is not doing the same successful tactics as a man that she would say yes to. Does that sound like something that should make a man emotional? It is about altering presentation until women say yes.
Does a man cry or feel hurt when fish ignore or reject his bait? No. He does not doubt his sense of self and does not blame the fish. He studies them and alters his tactics. This is like romance. We figure out what works and apply winning methods.
Women can be “Gamed” because women have common arousals to methods. And how do we solve madness? With method. We do not complain or hold pain because we are too busy figuring out what works.
“But Jerr” a voice calls out “There was this special woman like no other–” Stop. God would not curse you like that and do not curse yourself with doubt. Women are in abundance. A woman who rejects you is giving you an opportunity for another.
Pay attention to winning strategies. Pay attention to what works and emotionally detach from the experience. It has less to do with your sense of self and more to do with the presentation of that self. And doubting presentation is necessary
Lower the emotion by practicing frame. Realize that romance is less about emotion and more about the hunt. And game that is missed should not be mourned long. Keep the head up. Improve. Tighten. Alter strategy and STAY PROUD.
Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.
The Wall Speaks is an easy to read guide on learning masculine frame.