By Jerr Rrej
A woman will encourage a man to open himself up and be vulnerable for different reasons. One reason is that a man’s true strength of will must be known and tested. It is like knowing if a player is bluffing in poker. Another reason is that openness incites emotionalism.
The more a man relies on a woman to validate his emotions, the more unsure about his own emotions he becomes. Talk builds a dependency on talk. Females use speech to regulate their emotions. One woman’s doubt can be eased by her social group.
What does it mean to hold a secret? What does it mean to feel no need to confess the self to others? It means a man has conditioned himself as supreme authority over others. To be framed is to be above others’ judgment. We are the eternal judge, not others.
When we open ourselves up, we are displaying a vulnerability which puts us under the frame of the other. This is why when a man allows himself to be vulnerable with a woman, he becomes dependent on her for emotional validation (comfort)
Think about emotion like a drug. A woman wants a man to be vulnerable because she wants to be the comforter of that emotion which places her in a place of authority. The man becomes dependent on the woman and the woman gains control over the man through his emotions.
A female is not sexually aroused by being a dominant over a male (Because she wants to be penetrated by someone she respects) — When a man becomes emotionally dependent on a woman, he raises her up as authority which lowers her attraction to him.
A man has himself and that is more than enough. Once a man understands frame, he will understand how to manipulate others’ emotions. We can make others’ emotions sensitive which allows us to manipulate more easily. Emotion is a tool for control.
If a man wants to be sad, he can easily be sad. Listen to a sad song and be sad. It does not take that much effort. We can control the frame of emotion for ourselves. Something that can be so easily controlled should be readily dismissed in meaning.
The more a man masters his own emotions, the more he can begin to master the emotions in others. Remember, emotions are a tool for control. They hold as much meaning as we want to give them. Staying above emotion is to stay above what controls us.
The Wall Speaks book is about masculine frame, it teaches how to live with one woman. Frame is not about promiscuity.
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Females want men to be open and vulnerable because they fear not having control over males. A female’s sexual pleasure comes from loss of control. But this is a challenge for many females because most men do not inspire submission in women.
It is a woman’s core design to challenge male authority. A female is like a second in command on a ship who must test the captain. They use emotion as a way to gain control over weak males. These males believe that emotion holds meaning and their females will begin to shame/guilt
A female’s brain is flooded with emotion because of her hormone flux. This allows her to be warm in nurturing for child rearing. A man must be cold to exist above emotion to cut through reality as protector/provider.
When a male becomes emotional and sensitive; he becomes a defective imitation of a female. He should be authority over females, but his emotionalism causes him to be submissive to emotional control which strips him of the cold frame necessary for power.
Become cold. Become ice cold like tiger eyes looking out from the bush. Realize that emotion holds as much meaning as we want it to. It means everything and it means nothing. See? Focus on gaining authority over the self and others. BE COLD. BE FRAMED. BE A MAN.
Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.
The Wall Speaks is an easy to read guide on learning masculine frame.