By Jerr Rrej
Decay breeds decay. And a man’s own bad behaviors will suffocate his consciousness. The more a man surrenders to weak willed indulgences the less belief in his own organism he will have.
What does it mean to choose weakness over strength? There will be times in a man’s life where the overwhelming urge to comfort himself will come surging into his mind. “This one thing will help me deal with reality. I need to disconnect” – Have you felt this way? It is common.
The need for weak willed indulgence be especially strong the more a man relies on indulgence for his own wellbeing. For example, a man who relies on drink to ease his mind will feel in a void of pain when he must deal with reality without that crutch.
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The void of pain will seem like a having to walk through a dark tunnel with nails under foot. This tunnel of pain will feel never ending. To be in the void is to suffer with the atrophy of self. The more we rely on “Frame crutches” the more our self-atrophies.
Can a man manage his life without alcohol/drugs/porn/junk food? Of course, he can. These substance addictions replace life, they are not life. They give false relief to the suffering of life while leaving a man in a world of pain when he tries to free himself from their grasps
And the most challenging aspect of addiction is that the more a man relies on the substance the deeper he digs himself in a dark hole. His worldview will darken, and life will feel overwhelming. Faces will twist in negative expression. The world will seem pointless and cruel.
Why? Because the man allowed himself to dig the hole that he is standing in. The world is only dark because he has chosen darkness. What does it mean to rely on poison for joy? It means that joy will be tainted by weakness and our belief in self will decay.
This is the key thing with addiction. Our sense of self will be wrapped around a poison and when that poison is removed our sense of self will be exposed to reality. The frame crutch is taken away leaving us on weakened legs. We feel we cannot continue unless we have the comfort
DO NOT GIVE UP. Walk through the tunnel of pain until the light at the end grows brighter. It will grow brighter the stronger you become. Being fatherless can make a man want to die. And this is why he seeks poison. Something to help him dissociate from his mind.
Keep a journal. Write down how you feel each day from 1 to 10. Write down the feeling of suffering to be without poison. Replace the negative with positive. Exercise, read and go on walks. Get sleep. Do whatever you need to do to be free from the poisonous grasp.
Stay strong through the tunnel of abstinence. Realize that the suffering will be challenging in the beginning. And mistakes happen. Keep pushing forward to the next day and each day will get easier. BELIEF IN SELF WILL GROW STRONGER. Practice masculine frame. And you will succeed
Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.
The Wall Speaks is an easy to read guide on learning masculine frame.