By Jerr Rrej,
When a man first discovers the masculine side of social media, he will encounter memes about “Soy face” The memes will usually show nice guy nerds having an over expressive face in excitement. This thread will discuss the psychology of this bizarre and cringe behavior.
The core psychology of nice guy behavior is to reassure others of harmlessness. This usually comes from a place of “Being a man is toxic, powerful and scary. Assholes look tough and this causes anxiety” And so these nice guys will go overboard in reassuring others emotionally.
A mother will reassure a young infant of her harmlessness by making wide expressions. It is a way to show that there is no hidden intent to her behaviorism. Remember, nuance of facial expression can be easily misunderstood by a baby that is learning human behaviorism.
The more is over expressing herself to a baby because of the infant’s low ability to discern the subtlety of facial expressions. She is infantilizing the baby with absurd open facial expressions in loving condescension to the infant’s low capacity for accuracy judgment.
Unframed men will be over expressive with each other because they are reassuring each other’s low capacity for nuance. They infantilize each other because they view themselves as emotional sensitive to hidden intent. They will obsess over “micro aggressions” like females.
Why? It is because they are emotionally sensitive to others judgment of their own reality. If someone makes a frown, they wilt inside and will become anxious for approval. The SOY FACE is a way to show their cards like in poker to reassure others of their hidden feelings.
Masculine frame means to hide our intent and to not condescend to other men like infants. We do not easily show our emotions and we do not become disturbed by others negative emotions towards us. My DM is full of messages calling me names. Whatever. See? My opinion only matters.
The Wall Speaks book is about masculine frame, it teaches how to live with one woman. Frame is not about promiscuity.
What a lot of these SOY FACE guys need to understand is that they are treating each other like sensitive infants who lack the strength of character and capacity for nuance of reading other people. They OPEN themselves for easy reassurance of HIGH EMOTIONS.
Stop with the soy face. Stop making goofy over expressions like a fool. Carry strong masculine frame. Focus on your own opinion of your reality. Validate the self. Do not fear hiding intent from others. Do not fear treating others like adults. There is nothing nice about soy face
Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.
The Wall Speaks is an easy to read guide on learning masculine frame.