Unframed men will have years of feminization to overcome when picking up frame. They will have decades of seeking affection over respect built into their identity. And if a man has gotten to the point where he wants a framed life is a man who is willing to admit a need for change
A feminized man will be groomed to constant doubt over his inner emotional state. This will cause him to seek external validation to ease his anxiety of identity and doubt of self by seeking the approval of others.
When a man is first picking up frame, he will be in a void of doubt from quitting that need for external validation. He will feel alone with his thoughts and feelings. This pain of doubt will fade with practice. We need pain to build our INTERNAL FORTITUDE.
Internal fortitude is when a man must learn to validate himself alone. This will cause him to become more certain in his sense of self while lowering his need for the approval of others. Feminized men and women are in constant social anxiety from individual doubt
The first day and first weeks that a man is consciously bearing frame can be difficult. Especially when a man is used to seeking a high amount of emotional validation for his inner reality. Many guys will feel two things when first bearing frame.
- Feeling alone with self.
- Deprived of validation for self.
This is to be expected. It takes daily practice to become more certain with self. And the more a man holds back his speech, the more he will realize how most speech is unnecessary.
The Wall Speaks book is about masculine frame, it teaches how to live with one woman. Frame is not about promiscuity.
A man first bearing frame will realize how much speech is about reassuring the speaker of emotional state and less about communicating rationale. The less a man expresses himself, the more he will see the weakness of expression.
Frame is every day. I battle and practice every day. All men are in constant practice with the discipline of frame. It is a discipline until death. Why? Because we are either getting weaker or stronger. And life throws us challenges that can weaken our frame or we get lazy.
Keep track of speech. Hold back speech. Hold back nervous laughter. Hold back tears. Keep track of your progress. And notice how the small changes affect your emotional state and how others treat you. Notice the respect for self-build within and others respect increase
Frame is all day every day. Do not give in to doubt, anxiety or fear. Keep pursuing respect over affection. Keep pursing dignity over emasculation. Build respect and belief for self. These small habits will increase into a proud man.
Jerr Rrej is the author of The Wall Speaks.
The Wall Speaks is an easy to read guide on learning masculine frame.